About me
About Elle Miller
Most of the people I work with have already done a great deal of inner work. They’re self-aware, reflective, and capable. They don’t need more insight, language, or frameworks. They want all that awareness to finally translate into decisions, boundaries, and conversations that actually change how they flow through daily life.
I specialize in complex agreement scenarios — moments where expectations are misaligned, values are in tension, and the stakes are real. I work with people who carry responsibility as leaders, parents, professionals, and partners, often in systems where there is no clean answer and avoiding the conversation only makes things worse.
A core focus of my work is tough conversations — the ones people postpone because they fear rupture, fallout, or harming the relationship. I help clients prepare for these moments, speak clearly and honestly, and stay regulated through the discomfort of being real. Just as importantly, I help people navigate what comes after — rupture and repair — so trust, dignity, and forward movement remain intact throughout the process.
Thriving relationships and effective leadership require healthy conflict. That means learning how to disagree without attacking, set boundaries without disappearing, and hold firm lines without severing connection. This is practical, relationally intelligent work for people of integrity.
My style is calm, direct, and thoughtful. I use gentle humor to interrupt shame, structure to steady emotionally noisy situations, and empathetic honesty.
I offer focused, contained sessions that create the conditions for the work you’ve already done to finally land. I incorporate modalities drawing on the Interchange Counseling Institute, Integrated Family Systems, Hakomi, and mindfulness.
I work best with thoughtful, capable people who are ready for their lives and their relationships to finally function differently.